Have you ever loved something so much that you didn’t want to share it? I came across a post the other day that read “my best moments don’t make it to Instagram”. Lately, I’ve found myself walking a tightrope with my relationship to social media. I am a fan of the opportunities it has afforded in my career. I am a fan of how it’s made the world a smaller place by showing us awesome creators and places worldwide. I am a fan of how I’m able to reach others who I can help or inspire on social platforms. But honestly, that’s all that I get from it nowadays. It’s rare that I check in on accounts of friends, mostly because their accounts are often not shown to me anymore. I pop on for the share of a post from a vacation, to drop some positivity, or to connect with my dance community - and then off just as quickly. Sometimes I stay away for multiple days at a time, which would make any branding specialist cringe. This isn’t to say that I don’t I appreciate the following I’ve built, I do. But most days, that following I worked so hard for, doesn’t even see my content. I’ve both seen and experienced how severe it all is on your mental health and self esteem. From the manipulative way it asks you to work with an algorithm that monopolizes an absurd amount of time, to the way it throws videos and imagery in your face that create an unrealistic perspective of reality. I’ve realized the things people will do for a like or a follow and how they will treat you if they have more followers or even less. I see a lot of behaviors on social media from people I know, parading themselves in a fashion that is totally out of the realm of their actual reality. I see a lot of people posting things that go against their personal code of morality with hopes of being noticed. I see a lot of people with unhealthy financial habits perpetuating that cycle to “stunt” for a double tap. The psychology behind it all is mind blowing to me. Most recently, I’ve realized how it gives people, who don’t actually know you in the physical, a sense of entitlement to the things happening in your life. Especially the personal. Social media tricks people into thinking that they know you because you become an everyday fixture in their virtual life. It gives them a screen to hide behind as they vocalize opinions and insights that they never would in an environment that required them to do so face to face.
The common formula for “success” on social media is to highlight your brand while still inserting bits of your personal life to make the “real life” connection with your follower base. I don’t subscribe to that methodology anymore. But that doesn’t mean that I’m any less happy than anyone else online. It doesn’t mean I’m lonely. It doesn’t mean I’m not traveling. It doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy my life. In fact, it probably means I’m enjoying it more because I’m fostering space to be in the only moment that actually exists - right now. That’s not to say that I won’t share this blog post to Instagram and Facebook. On the contrary, I want people to read it. But I don’t want them seeking out the hotel I’m staying in or volunteering unwarranted information. Whether it’s with or without the intention of popping my impenetrable bubble of happiness, it doesn’t matter anymore. I’ve realized that this bubble is impenetrable because I am in complete control of who I grant access to it. Remember that you are too. A wise man once said that the way to enlightenment and bliss is to seek to procure the wisdom of children. The older I get the more selfish I become with my “toys”. I think I might be on my way.
Love, light, & lion vibes,
Hey, again. It's Shonna.
I'm one part dance diva, one part sunbeam, and one part lioness. This blog is a highlight reel of my favorite moments, my travels, my dance classes, and my spiritual journey. It is a place for me to express, share, and heal. Through my journey, I hope to inspire, create, and spread happiness. I truly enjoy making others feel good - about themselves, about their circumstances, about life in general. With any dash of hope, maybe you can feel that way too.